“What is rumbling around in that silent, smug monster’s brain?” It can be hard to be in therapy. It can feel like you are having a one-way relationship at times, because you share so much and they share so little. You can ask them what they think and they will therapist the shit out of that question and redirect the question back to you. Muhahahahwahha (I just googled how to spell “evil laugh,” so that is an evil laugh…it’s always better when you have to explain the joke I heard). There are therapeutic reasons for this (e.g., a therapist will appear more objective and emotionally safe and available if you don’t know every single thing about them). Therapy’s appeal, effectiveness, and uniqueness likely have something to do with these unfamiliar and strange boundaries, but nevertheless it can be unsettling. I can’t speak for all therapists, but here are 7 common thoughts I have while in sessions with my clients.